Recently we learned that Cassie’s cancer has started to progress. Not a lot at this point but definitely the wrong direction. Upon hearing that news, we felt like we had been punched in the gut all over again even though we both know that this is just the deal with Metastatic Breast Cancer. It’s unrelenting.
We realized right away that it would be easy to fall back into a complete sense of sadness and grief for what we are going through. Not surprisingly perhaps, in Cassie’s metastatic cancer support group that week the subject turned to all that the women in the group have lost and all the ways their lives have changed. One woman spoke up and said at this stage of her illness, she is more focused on what her cancer can’t take away.
We decided that might be a good exercise for us, too. . . . .
What cancer can’t take away
Craft cocktails
Stylish shoes
Delicious wine
Corny jokes and laughter (“Woman walks into a bar. Bartender says what are you having? She says — A Corona and Two Hurricanes. Bartender replies: That’s 2020!”)
Playing games
Time with our friends (even if six feet apart)
Walks with Doc the dog
Grilling good food
Zoom poker
Celebrating milestones
Bloedows donuts (go to Winona and check them out they are seriously the best)
Sunsets over the river
Family zooms
22 years of marriage full of love
